"An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels." Proverbs 31:10
As I reflect on the last two years (yes, it's been TWO years already!) of our marriage, I find myself clearly being able to see the areas I really need to grow in. For awhile, it seemed like I had to grow in every area. And while that may still be somewhat true, I have been able to really notice what I need to work on first.
It's not that I expect myself to be perfect, but I find that if I am not growing and learning how to be a better wife, I will continue to stay the ignorant single woman I was in a married woman's shoes. Something that is just not a working machine. It's like wearing the wrong size shoes. No one looks good with their toes hanging all out of their heels. This is about living up to my calling as a wife and not just a woman. For me, it's about not expecting what the world tells you that you should: a man who will make your life complete, buy you everything you want (mainly diamonds!), allow you to stay home and just hit the gym everyday and rub your feet every night all because you are a "princess" and you deserve it.
Being a Godly woman is hard work. I don't think our generation of young women and girls realize this. I know I didn't. Especially because of the movies we watch, what Hollywood tells us, and all the other sources of this world. But it's not just in the world that we become so naive to what a wife should be. It's also in the church that we learn false ideas of what a Godly wife is. Especially when all we see is that so many women look like they have it all together all of the time. That isn't going to teach us anything. We need real life examples of what it looks like to be a wife and not just through Hollywood love stories and already perfect Godly women in our church.
I'll start by saying that it's very obvious that in our culture and society, we as women are provided with very little resources and/or examples to start off successfully in our journey to becoming a Godly wife.
Sometimes it makes me upset when I think about how much importance we place on our outer beauty (make-up, fashion, style, diet) and have so very little time for what's actually most important and what will keep our marriages strong: our inner selves. Who we are as women, how we respond to our husbands and children, how and if we fear the Lord, etc.
So, I'm starting my journey to dig deeper into what it means to be an "excellent wife". I hope that you will join me on this journey!
A question I have for you... What were the things in this world/church that misrepresented to you what a wife was? What were the things that actually helped you learn and grow into a Godly wife?
Feel free to leave your comments/thoughts/ideas or what you have already learned in your journey below.
